Domestic abuse can and does affect anyone. Domestic abuse doesn’t discriminate neither do we.
If you are a man and think you are experiencing domestic abuse contact us for specialist help and support.
Call 01892 570538
Or email us at [email protected]
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A Joe Whelski and Nick Goodey Production
Direction, Design, Animation, Editing, Sound Design by: Zoe Logan & Joe Kowalski
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Written by Nick Goodey & Joe Whelski
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Associate Producer: Mila Milosevic
Sound Recordist: Robert La Rosa
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What is abuse?
Coercion, intimidation and threats:
- Being told no one will believe you
- Being threatened with knives or other weapons
- Being told if you try to leave you will never see your children
- Being threatened with violence, if you don’t do what the perpetrator wants you to do
- Being threatened that the perpetrator will call the police or report you to Social Services
- Threatened with legal proceedings
- Denied access to medical care/medicines etc
- Denied sleep or being attacked whilst asleep
Emotional Abuse:
- Being made to feel guilty and to blame for the abuse
- Having mind games played on you
- Being humiliated
- Being put down and made to feel bad about yourself
- Experiencing the ‘silent treatment’, being ignored
- Being told you are mad, crazy
Sexual Abuse:
- Feeling you have to participate in sex out of fear you will be ‘punished’ for refusing because you don’t feel safe.
- Being coerced into using objects
- Being coerced or pressured into sexual acts that you do not want
- Being coerced into sexual activities with others against your will
- Being coerced or threatened overtly into sex
Physical Abuse:
- Being hit with objects
- Being hit, punched kicked
- Male victims of female perpetrators also talk about blows to groin area or scratches to face, being attacked with a knife
Using Gender:
- Being told you are not a real man if you don’t do certain things or in a certain way
- Being forced or coerced into specific responsibilities and activities based on strict traditional gender roles without any negotiation and under fear of consequences of not complying
Using Children:
- Being belittled for attempts to look after children
- Receiving messages via the children
- Being excluded from activities with children
Minimising, denial and blame:
- Being told you are responsible for the abuse
- Having injuries not taken seriously
- Being told the abuse didn’t happen or wasn’t that bad
