Domestic abuse doesn’t discriminate neither do we.    DAVSS is an all-inclusive service, regardless of gender and/or sexuality. If you are experiencing domestic abuse contact us – we will listen.

Stonewalls research shows that one in four lesbian and bi women have experienced domestic abuse in a relationship. Two thirds of those say the perpetrator was a woman, a third a man.

Almost half (49%) of all gay and bi men have experienced at least one incident of domestic abuse from a family member or partner since the age of 16.

A report by the The Scottish Transgender Alliance indicates that 80% of trans people had experienced emotional, sexual, or physical abuse from a partner or ex-partner.

LGBTQ+ Abuse

Heterosexual and LGBT+ people may experience similar patterns of domestic abuse, there are however some specific issues that are unique to the experiences of LGBT+ people, which may include:

  • Threat of disclosure of sexual orientation and gender identity to family, friends, or work colleagues.
  • Increased isolation because of factors like lack of family support or safety nets.
  • Undermining someone’s sense of gender or sexual identity.
  • Limiting or controlling access to spaces and networks relevant to coming out and coming to terms with gender and sexual identity.
  • The abused may believe they ‘deserve’ the abuse because of internalised negative beliefs about themselves.
  • The abused may believe that no help is available due to experienced or perceived homo/bi/ transphobia of support services and criminal justice system.

With specific reference to LGBT+ partner abuse:

  • Using society’s heterosexist myths about aggression and violence abusive partners may manipulate and convince their partner that no one will believe the abuse is real.
  • Abusive partner may manipulate their partners into believing that abuse is a ‘normal’ part of same-sex relationships
  • Abusive partners can give the idea that the violence is mutual or that the abused partner consents to the abuse.
  • Abusive partner may threat to call the police and claim they are the abused person.
  • The abusive partner may pressure their partner to minimalise abuse to protect the image of the LGBT community.
  • If the abused partner is living in the UK on a spousal visa, abuser might take advantage of their lack of awareness about immigration law, and threaten to deport them back to their country of origin, which might be unsafe due to e.g.: anti-gay legislation.

With specific reference to trans persons:

  • Withholding medication or preventing treatment needed to express victim’s gender identity (e.g. hormones, surgery).
  • The abuser might refuse to use correct pronouns and prevent the abused from telling other people about their trans background or identity.
  • The abuser might use pejorative names and ridiculing persons’ body image (body shaming).
  • The abuser might convince or manipulate their partner that nobody would believe them because they’re transgender.
  • The abuser might deny a person’s access to medical treatment or hormones or coercing them into not pursuing medical treatment. (GALOP)