How can you spot abuse?

“it was difficult for me to stand by and watch my friend withdraw in to herself, the hallmarks of abuse were clearly there, it took me a while to see it for what it was”

If you are unsure whether someone you know is experiencing abuse it may be helpful to ask yourself the questions below.

Do they seem extremely frightened and/or anxious?

Yes
No

Do they have unexplained injuries?

Yes
No

Have they become isolated and/or withdrawn?

Yes
No

Have there been changes in their appearance?

Yes
No

Have they developed depression or become suicidal?

Yes
No

Do they have access to money or resources?

Yes
No

Do they have to check in with their partner or family member?

Yes
No

Have you noticed signs of damage to property or possessions?

Yes
No

If you answered yes to all or some of the above questions it may mean that the person is experiencing domestic abuse. Help is out there, domestic abuse can happen to anyone, contact us for support and assistance. Contact us for support and assistance.

How can I help?

If someone you know has confided you in there is a few basic steps you can take to aid the person.

• Listen to them
• Let them know that you believe them
• Acknowledge that it takes strength to come forward and seek help and assistance
• Validate their feelings- acknowledge that they are in a frightening situation
• Let them know that this is not their fault
• Let them know that there is no excuse for abuse no matter what the perpetrator has told them
• Do not tell them to leave unless they are ready to do so
• Gently encourage them to seek specialist help and support especially around immediate safety planning
• Arm yourself with information for local services
• If they have physical injuries encourage them to seek medical assistance
• Be ready to assist them should they wish to report the abuse to the police
• Be ready to help them plan a managed exit with the aid of specialist domestic abuse support services
• If it is safe to do so offer them the use of your address and/or loo after an emergency bag for them should the need arise
• Keep yourself safe, do not offer to speak to the perpetrator